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1 German Association for Youth and Marriage Counseling e.v. DAJEB The taboo in counseling The strange in us Information circular No. 234 October 2017

2 German Association for Youth and Marriage Counseling e.v. DAJEB Board of Directors of the DAJEB President: Cornelia Weller Rosentalgasse 7 Dipl.-Soz.-Pedagogue, Supervisor Leipzig (DGSv), Marriage, Family and Life Tel .: / Advisor (DAJEB) Vice President: Ulrike Heckel Hopfengarten 12 Dipl.-Soz .-Pedagogue, Supervisor Herzebrock-Clarholz (DGSv), Marriage, Family and Life Tel .: / Advisor (DAJEB) Assessor: Berend Groeneveld Roonstr. 53 Dipl.-Psychologist, Psych. Psycho Bad Salzuflen Therapist, Supervisor (BDP) Tel .: / Christine Koch-Brinkmann Luther Weg 51 Dipl.-Theologian, Systemic Fami Wunstorf lient therapist (SG), Marriage, Family Tel .: / and life advisor (DAJEB), supervisor (DGSv) Katja Müller Hainholzweg 2 Graduate psychologist, marriage and family Göttingen and life advisor (DAJEB) Tel .: / Dr. Rudolf Sanders Sauerlandstr. 4 Graduate educator, marriage, family and Menden life counselor (BAG), integrative phone: / couple therapist (EAG) Managing director: Andrea-Francesco Degrandi DAJEB Neumarkter Straße 84 c Munich phone: 0 89 / fax: 0 89 /

3 Table of Contents Dr. Rudolf Sanders About this issue 2 News from the office: Andrea-Francesco Degrandi The new managing director introduces himself 3 Annual Meeting 2017 Cornelia Weller Opening of the Annual Meeting 2017 in Erkner 5 Prof. Dr. Kirsten von Sydow Taboos and secrets in psychological counseling and psychotherapy 8 From the working groups: Prof. Dr. Kirsten von Sydow Attachment and sexuality in long-term relationships 10 Ulrich Kruse Working with refugees traumatized by the war 12 Dr. Miriam Haagen Children of Physically Ill Parents 14 Dr. Claudia Krell Coming-out for adolescents and young adults 16 Edouard Marry Culture-sensitive advice in couples' crises 19 Jürgen Schramm Young people play with death 22 Dr. Rudolf Sanders Destructive Patterns in Couple Relationships 24 Dr. Stefan Trobisch-Lütge Recognizing emotional trauma from political persecution 27 Dr. Rudolf Sanders Christel Bakker-Bents General Assembly 2017 Report on the General Assembly Activity report for the year From the counseling work Destructive Patterns in Couple Relationships Recognize, Understand, Intervene 50 Foreign World Prison Insights into prison chaplaincy 64 reviews Strüber, N. The first bond 73 Kern, E. Person-centered psychotherapy 74 Walg, M .; Lauth, G. W. Mastering educational difficulties together 75 Weiß, W. et al. (Ed.) Handbook Trauma Pedagogy 76 Brisch, K. H. (Ed.) Attachment Traumatization 77 Auszra, L. et al. Emotion-Focused Therapy 78 Roth, G .; Ryba, A. Coaching, Counseling and Brain 79 Homeier, S .; Wiemann, I. Herzwurzeln 80 Invitation to further training in marriage, partnership, family and life counseling 81

4 About this issue Dear Readers, How to deal with the unspeakable, with the taboos in advice? Both the main lecture and the working groups at our annual conference, which took place from March 2nd to 4th, 2017 in Erkner near Berlin, revolved around this topic. In this booklet you will find a summary of the presentation and the results of the various working groups. You will also find the activity report for 2016 as well as the report of the general meeting. Both of these allow you to get an insight into the life of the DAJEB. In addition, Ms. Christel Bakker-Bents gives us an insight into the strange world of the prison and shows us how she works there as a pastor. Due to the great interest in the working group "Destructive Patterns in Couple Relationships", I have described my experiences as a consultant in marriage, family and life counseling. At the beginning of the booklet I have some very good news: there, Mr. Andrea-Francesco Degrandi introduces himself. After the new managing director mentioned in Ms. Weller's opening speech resigned during his probationary period, we are pleased that we were able to hire Mr. Degrandi for this responsible position from October 1, 2017 and we wish him all the best. On behalf of the editors, I warmly greet you, Dr. Rudolf Sanders Announcement General Assembly and Annual Conference 2018 Topic: "How much body needs advice?" Friday, May 11th to Saturday, May 12th, 2018 The DAJEB general meeting will take place on Thursday, May 10th, 2018. Location: Koenigswinter Employee Center (AZK) Johannes-Albers-Allee 3, Koenigswinter Please make a note of the date and pass the information on to interested colleagues! Members will receive the invitation to the annual conference with a detailed program and the registration form in mid-November. From this point on, these documents will also be available for download. 2

5 News from the office Andrea-Francesco Degrandi (new managing director of the DAJEB :) Dear Sir or Madam, It is an honor for me to welcome you in my new role as managing director of the DAJEB. Allow me to briefly introduce myself to you: I am 47 years old, have a degree in business administration (FH) and business administration (VWA), and I am from Munich with a "Piedmontese-Lower Saxony" background. I have been working in the so-called third sector for almost two decades. From 1997 to 2003 I began my career in the non-profit sector as a clerk in the administration of Landesverkehrswacht Bayern e. V .; it was here that I first came into contact with government grants. In 2003 I switched to Verkehrswacht München e. V., where I was entrusted with the management of the project areas "Adult Road Users" and "Safety for Seniors". Verkehrswacht München, like the DAJEB, founded in 1949, is one of the oldest non-profit citizens' initiatives in Munich and aims to increase road safety and prevent accidents in road traffic. In 2006 I took over the management of the entire operational part of the association as managing director, an activity that I carried out with great passion until I switched to DAJEB. Since 2013 I have also been involved as a volunteer member of the board and treasurer of the Munich Transport Authority and since 2014, also on an honorary basis, as the Deputy District Chairman of the Upper Bavarian Transport Authority. In addition to managing the office and representing the traffic watch to the outside world, the focus of my work as a managing director has been, among other things. taking care of state and municipal grants, fundraising, controlling, finance and accounting as well as the commercial management of the association. It was always my concern to reconcile the selfless goals of a non-profit organization with economically shaped thinking. Value-added thinking, in the sense of the transformation of existing goods into goods with a higher monetary value, is part of the déformation professional of every economist. At the same time, I see the synthesis between economic efficiency and service to others, and the latter is what you, ladies and gentlemen, do every day in your helping, advising and therapeutic practice for families, life partners, children and young people! a meaningful and rewarding task that goes beyond the purely monetary measure. Whether on the prevention work of the traffic 3

6 or applied to the further and advanced training activities of the DAJEB, here the concept of added value takes on a completely different, ethical dimension, namely in the sense of creating ideal, social and humanistic values ​​for our society. I am convinced that I will be able to use the wealth of experience that has been gathered so far in the traffic watch organization in the implementation of the DAJEB's goals. I am admittedly very excited about the tasks that await me in the months and years to come. I do this with a feeling of humility and the greatest possible respect for the demanding challenges that inevitably brings with it when dealing with a new topic. I am of course very much looking forward to working with the Federal Ministry for Families, Seniors, Women and Youth (BMFSFJ) and of course I hope to meet Mr. Ulrich Paschold in person soon. In this context I would like to thank the President Cornelia Weller, the Vice President Ulrike Heckel and the entire Board of Directors of the DAJEB for the trust they have placed in me. Of course, special thanks also go to Dr. Florian Moeser-Jantke for the excellent and competent induction and support in this initial phase as well as all employees in the federal office, who welcomed me in an extremely open and friendly manner. And now, to paraphrase Goethe: enough words have been changed, so let's finally see deeds! With this in mind, I wish all of us a good, successful and collegial cooperation! 4th

7 Cornelia Weller Opening of the 2017 annual conference in Erkner Dear Sir or Madam, dear members and guests, I warmly welcome you all to our 2017 annual conference here in Erkner. I particularly welcome our speakers, especially Prof. von Sydow with her main speech on "Taboos and secrets in psychological counseling and psychotherapy" as well as all those involved in this year's annual conference. Thank you at this point to Berend Groeneveld from the board and Christine Rüberg as DAJEB member for the preparation of this conference. It is always very intensive, but I think it is also stimulating work associated with it. I would like to send you warm greetings from Mr. Paschold from the Federal Ministry for Families, Seniors, Women and Youth, who cannot attend our conference this year. But he would very much like to come to Koenigswinter next year and will then certainly be able to report something new after the general election. Before I leave the floor to you, Prof. von Sydow, let me say a few words. Since May of last year we have been working on a new board, which I think is extremely good and cooperative. I think we succeeded in the transitions and we had to master a couple of challenges right away: Probably the biggest one was that for us, rather unexpectedly and at short notice, our managing director Ms. Voglsanger changed her professional field in January 2017. This presented us with a lot of organizational tasks that we had to master between November 15th and December 31st. I had already reported about it in a little more detail at yesterday's general meeting. I want to say thank you once again, first of all to the employees of the office, who to this day fill this vacancy with great commitment and do their best to continue all tasks. And of course our board of directors, who managed to move together within a very short time and take on and master all the important tasks. On March 6, 2017, we will be able to welcome a new managing director, Mr. Jens Wöhler, to the Munich office. Next year he will of course be here at our annual conference. We hope to get back into somewhat calmer waters. 5

8 "The taboo in counseling, the strange in us" with this title we would like to invite you to our annual conference here in beautiful Erkner this year! Taboo is something that is not actually talked about, but that is exactly what we want to do at our conference. Taboos are defined as social norms that remain unspoken and, because of their implicit nature, create seemingly inviolable things to be taken for granted. With this topic of our annual conference 2017, we would like to question what seems to be taken for granted in relation to our professional thinking and acting and point out more precisely neglected target groups for psychological counseling. It is important to us not to focus exclusively on the issues of foreignness and migration. For the main lecture "Taboos and secrets in psychological counseling and psychotherapy", Prof. Kirsten von Sydow to be won. I am very pleased that you are here today. In addition to your main lecture, we offer nine working groups, as usual, on the following topics: In working groups 1, 5, 6 and 8 we deal with specific topics of marriage and couple counseling; In working group 1, the participants, together with Prof. von Sydow, will deal with the question of how attachment and sexuality develop in long-term relationships. In working group 5, Mr. Marry puts up for discussion the special features of advising binational / bicultural couples in crisis. Unfortunately, for health reasons, Mr. Weber was unable to attend at short notice. He has already offered work groups for the DAJEB several times and we wish him a speedy recovery from here. Thankfully, our colleague Dr. Rudolf Sanders stepped in and will lead working group 8. The participants were informed at short notice by the office. Dr. Sanders will show against the background of a relationship-oriented and schema-therapeutic understanding of relationship disorders, their emergence and actualization in the couple relationship. A schema questionnaire is presented and practiced in the working group. In this way it can be shown how destructive patterns can become beneficial ones. In addition, we will focus on special target groups. Working group 3 is led by Ms. Dr. Haagen deal with the subject of how underage children experience themselves when they have parents with life-threatening illnesses. Miss Dr. In working groups 4 and 7, Krell and Mr Schramm deal with the issues of coming out and suicidality among adolescents and adolescents. In working groups 2 and 9, possibilities of working with war-traumatized refugees are shown and awareness is raised for working with clients who have to deal with long-term psychological effects due to political persecution

9 sen. This is what Mr. Kruse and Dr. Trobisch-Lütge available as a working group leader. I am sure that you will experience good and exciting working groups in the next two days and that you will clear up some taboos. As always, I would like to take a brief look at the coming year at this point. The conference will then take place again, as usual on Ascension Day. Next year we will meet again on the Rhine, namely in Königswinter. The topic then becomes "How much body needs advice?" be. Dr. Rudolf Sanders from the board, Claudia Gansauge and Carmen Hühnerfuss as long-time DAJEB members are currently preparing this conference. Again an extremely exciting topic, which was repeatedly requested as a conference topic in the feedback from the participants. I can announce Mr. Werner Eberwein as the main speaker. I cordially invite you to join us today. But now back to this year's conference. Prof. von Sydow, our main speaker, is a psychological psychotherapist and child and adolescent psychotherapist. Since 2010 she has been a professor at the Psychological University Berlin for clinical psychology and psychotherapy. Her research areas included the effectiveness of systemic therapy, psychosexual development in the life course, parenting and couple relationships, attachment disorders that are only a small selection. There are definitely a lot of interesting topics about which she could say something, we have to see what fits into the morning today. In her main lecture, Prof. von Sydow will systematically explain the variety of human secrets and outline forms of intervention for professional use in counseling and psychotherapy. I look forward to your lecture and now ask Dr. von Sydow to start their presentation. Thank you for your attention. Cornelia Weller President of the DAJEB Rosentalgasse Leipzig 7

10 Prof. Dr. Kirsten von Sydow Taboos and secrets in psychological counseling and psychotherapy All people, all families and all partnerships have wounds and dark areas. We all have secrets. Therapists and counselors are constantly dealing with secrets, both with those we are told and with those that are not told to us, professionally as well. Both affect our work. And sometimes, in the context of couple / family therapies / counseling, we also become confidantes of secrets that another family member should not find out about ... Different areas of secrets that are relevant in therapies and counseling were highlighted, especially sexuality, Parenthood, suicide, addiction, violence, mental disorders, war and National Socialism (experiences as a victim and / or perpetrator) as well as religion. The sparse research on the subject has been pooled. In the context of reproductive medicine, it has been shown that it is beneficial for child development and family relationships if e.g. B. artificial insemination is dealt with relatively openly. Fundamental questions were addressed (e.g. "Should one always say 'everything' to each other in partnerships?") And an overview of specific topics of secrets that are often important in counseling and therapy (e.g. secrets regarding External Relations; Sexual Abuse Secrets).Social aspects and the influence of the media on the handling of secrets were described. With regard to counseling and therapy, central aspects in dealing with secrets were outlined (e.g. confidentiality). It is essential that revelations should only be made cautiously: well thought out and planned! Often the long-term damage caused by secrets is greater because the credibility of the secret bearer is undermined. A revelation is often relieving, but the formerly ignorant often also reacts severely shocked, angry and disappointed. Shame, fears and sadness are also often present. Often the long silence before the disclosure is perceived as similarly "bad" or even worse than the actual facts. At the same time, every keeper of secrets also has good reasons for his / her behavior (self-protection, protection of the other, protection of the relationship). From a therapeutic or advisory point of view, a "systematic sharing" (Imber-Black, 1999) seems particularly beneficial, which first clarifies the following important questions in advance: - What are the advantages and disadvantages of disclosure for each individual family member? For every single family relationship? For the family as a whole? - What could happen in connection with a disclosure: worst case scenario (catastrophe fantasies) ?! At best ?! 8th

11 - And what could happen if the secret is not revealed: at worst ?! At best ?! - What is a suitable framework for an unveiling? (Family celebrations rather not!) In summary, it can be said that secrets always have a meaning and a function, e.g. B. To draw boundaries, to protect yourself and / or others and / and not to overwhelm children. Therefore, counselors / therapists should never put pressure on clients to reveal a secret. But secrets can also be destructive, poisonous and stressful. A "secret milieu" creates a paranoid mood in families. Sometimes names of truth are pathologized and marginalized (e.g. in the case of sexual abuse). Secrets and reactions to revelations can create serious conflicts of loyalty. Children are extremely sensitive to family secrets! Secrets should only be revealed carefully and planned as they can trigger powerful emotions and reactions. The lecture was illustrated by case studies and gave rise to a lively and open discussion. Literature Imber-Black, E .: The power of silence secrets in the family (The secret life of families. New York: Bantam), Stuttgart 1998/1999 Papp, P .: In: Imber-Black, E. (Ed.) : Secrets and taboos in family and family therapy (S), Stuttgart 1995 Sydow, K. v .: Systemic Therapy, Munich 2015 Sydow, K. v .; Seiferth, A .: Sexual Relationships (in the series "Practice of Couple and Family Therapy"), Göttingen 2015 Prof. Dr. Kirsten von Sydow graduate psychologist, psychological psychotherapist, child and adolescent psychotherapist Osterstr Hamburg 9

12 Prof. Dr. Kirsten von Sydow Working Group Attachment and Sexuality in Long-Term Relationships The working group included 24 participants as well as the moderator Berend Groeneveld. It was divided into four double hours: 1. On Friday afternoon, after an introductory session, a lecture gave an overview of the topic of the development of sexuality and tenderness in long-term relationships, basic neuropsychologically and hormonally anchored human motive systems (lust, being in love and attachment), frequent Problems described (e.g. sexual dysfunction, conflicts over jealousy and external relations, sexual boredom) and discussed what are inevitable internal conflicts that people have to live with and what can be changed. 2. On Friday evening the therapeutic work of the lecturer was demonstrated in a master's role play with a couple (the woman feels sexually rejected and is jealous, the man distant and very work-oriented). The two partners presented their current couple situation and their therapy / counseling goal as a sculpture. They found impressive symbols. In the "present" sculpture, the woman depicted her husband standing, kneeling in front of him as submissive. Both feel so very uncomfortable. In her "target" sculpture both stood upright, facing each other very close, whereby it was noticeable that when she stood so close, she closed her eyes; When asked, she increased the distance between the partners to about one meter, which made both feel more comfortable. In his "present" sculpture, the woman pulls his arm with one hand, while with the other hand she shows him a raised index finger (accusingly?). Both feel very uncomfortable that way too. His "target" sculpture then shows her on a bicycle, while he is jogging alongside. Both feel good. In the therapy talk, the first, very small steps in the desired direction were explored. The procedure was then discussed in the large group. 3. On Saturday morning the participants explored their own attachment patterns with the help of individual questions from the "Adult Attachment Interview" (three adjectives each describing the relationship to the mother / father and examples for each adjective; experiences with the first separation from parents; experiences of feeling rejected as a child), which were asked about and discussed in small groups. 4. On Saturday noon a second master's role-play was carried out in which the seminar leader took a sexual history with a couple with sexual problems 10

13 performed. The procedure was then discussed in the large group and concluded with a "one-word-or-sentence feedback round". The participants were highly motivated, highly competent and very involved. It was a bit problematic that the "huge" topic aroused a lot of wishes in the working group, which could only partially be realized in the short time. Literature Schnarch, D .: Intimacy and desire: Sexual passion in permanent relationships (Intimacy & desire Awaken the passion in your relationship. New York: Beaufort.), Stuttgart 2009/2011 Sydow, K. v .: The desire for love in older people People (Reinhardt's Gerontological Series, Vol. 5), 2nd edition. Munich 1994 Sydow, K. v .: Systemic Therapy (From the series: Paths of Psychotherapy). Munich 2015 Sydow, K. v .: Research methods to determine partnership ties. In G. Gloger-Tippelt (Ed.), Binding in Adulthood. A handbook for research and practice (unchanged 3rd ed .;). Bern 2016 Sydow, K. v .: Attachment and partner relationship (Chapter 5); in: Strauss, B .; Schauenburg, H .: Binding in Psychology and Medicine: Basics, Clinic and Research A Handbook (S). Stuttgart 2017a Sydow, K. v .: Attachment, Couple / Family Therapy and Systemic Therapy (Chap. 24); in: Strauss, B .; Schauenburg, H .: Binding in Psychology and Medicine: Basics, Clinic and Research Ein Handbuch (S), Stuttgart 2017b Sydow, K. v .; Seiferth, A .: Sexual Relationships (In the series "Practice of Couple and Family Therapy". Göttingen

14 Ulrich Kruse Working Group on War-Traumatized Refugees The working group's announcement aroused the interest of a large number of colleagues in how counseling work can in future be more attentive and empathetic than before to children, adolescents and adults with refugee experience. After some initial definitions - how do we define refugees today? - What is the situation of traumatized refugees in our living environment? - Is there an increased risk of mental illness for refugees? - What procedural peculiarities are we confronted with? - What does the living environment of refugees in collective accommodation or decentralized apartments look like in everyday life? we have gathered the experiences, the expectations of the working group, the fears and the possibly open questions. The different experiences from the group were presented very graphically and competently. If, on the one hand, new aspects in culturally sensitive dealing with families are worth mentioning, then it is necessary to use our previous experience-based competence accordingly for the consequences in the advisory work with the future action concepts. Traditional role models (e.g. female and mother roles, boys / girls, basic patriarchal structures, etc.) demand a high degree of serenity and respectful interaction from us (which we also know from our other clients). Working with language mediators or interpreters is a new experience for many of us; We must acquire advice to third parties and guarantee them in accordance with the requirements (see also recommendations for quality standards for cooperation with interpreters in psychological / psychosocial counseling from the bke, DAJEB, EKFuL and the Catholic BAG, Berlin December 2016). A clear demarcation from psychotherapy is just as necessary as the necessary networking with social work on site, daycare centers and schools, specialist services for migration counseling, etc. The fears expressed in the group in the encounter with refugees can very well be an emotional overload, own overload and the risk of The re-traumatisation of refugees as a hurdle in establishing relationships plays a major role. It should also not be underestimated that the 12th

15 Advisory work changed through greater involvement in the existing support structure on site; Here, too, it is imperative to develop a good network structure. It should not be forgotten, however, that the aspects of working with war-traumatized refugees have a firm place in the on-site supervision. Practical work shows that, in addition to the verbal options, they are initially limited! Experience has shown that breathing exercises, muscle relaxation processes and creative work are very helpful for development work with families and / or children and adolescents. Basically, our work with people from refugee countries has one goal: to stabilize, stabilize, stabilize. In psychological counseling work, we can give refugees a feeling of security in arriving in society. However, the current trend in the Federal Office for Migration and Refugees to encourage as many refugees as possible from so-called safe countries of origin to return home despite massive reasons to flee from these countries is currently very stressful. Ulrich Kruse Graduate psychologist, psychological psychotherapist, supervisor (BDP) Neuer Weg Flensburg The speaker can provide further information on request about the foreign project in Kosovo since 1999. 13th

16 Dr. Miriam Haagen Working Group on Children of Physically Ill Parents Support for Families with a Dying Parent Family worries are most frequently mentioned by adult patients directly after illness-related problems when they are asked about their burdens. However, in our health and disease care centered on the individual, these are rarely actively addressed by the practitioner. A family-oriented approach, which takes into account the relationships of the sick person with their family members and the social environment, friends, neighbors, work colleagues, is known not only to reduce costs, but also to prevent mental disorders in severe physical illnesses. However, if the practitioner is family-oriented, they always have to contribute themselves. For this it is necessary to develop a specific, family-oriented attitude. Knowledge of family sciences is just as necessary for this as knowledge of developmental psychology, medical basics, psychotraumatology and others. Advisory and psychotherapeutic work with families in which members are physically ill requires a high degree of flexibility and willingness to cooperate on the part of (family) therapists or counselors. The complexity of the relevant areas of knowledge is difficult for the individual to grasp. A complicating factor is that dealing with families in which members are affected by severe physical illnesses is rarely taught in further training courses in psychotherapy. If minor children are included as relatives, additional knowledge of the child's cognitive and emotional development, particularly with regard to body functions, illness, dying and death, is required. In addition, one's own biographical and cultural background acts like a filter through which the sufferings and behaviors of patients or clients and their families can be seen. Topic-related self-awareness and regular supervision or intervision work helpful and prevent too quick an inward turning away from these families or too strong identification, which leads to the impulse to give advice. If parents of underage children fall ill, this means a major intrusion into family life. A cancer diagnosis, for example, is often perceived as a threat of death and causes a deep shock to the patient and his family. The younger the children are, the more difficult it is for parents to inform them about their own illness in an age-appropriate manner. Children physically 14

Seventeen seriously ill parents belong to a population at risk of developing mental disorders. In the working group, after an introduction to medical family therapy, we used examples to discuss ways of dealing with the life threats of parents of underage children. In groups of two, there was an exchange about their own childhood experiences with dying and death. Then death concepts and grief reactions of children and adolescents in different age groups were presented and case histories were presented using children's drawings and discussed together. Two examples of participants were worked on in detailed reflection in the sense of the Balint group work. One case involved family care for a 12-year-old boy whose mother had died. Now the foster mother was seriously ill, the foster father was very stressed and the boy was increasingly on his own. The other case concerned a seriously ill mother who sought separation counseling from the family counseling center because there were repeated conflicts about how her children treated the separated father. At first it was confusing that the mother refused to talk about her illness and its course. In the detailed reflection in the Balint group style, an understanding of the client and a perspective on how the advisory support could be continued arose. The working group was very lively and shaped by the openness and great interest of the participants. Literature Haagen, M .: Living with death. Stuttgart 2017 (to be published in autumn) Haagen, M .; Möller, B .: Dying and Death in Family Life. Göttingen 2013 Romer, G .; Haagen, M .: Children of physically ill parents. Göttingen 2007 Fritzsche, K. (Ed.): Psychosomatic basic care. Berlin 2003 McDaniel, S .; Hepworth, J .; Doherty, W .: Family Therapy in Medicine. Heidelberg 1997 Cierpka, M .; Krebeck, S .; Retzlaff, R .: Doctor, patient, family. Stuttgart 2001 Lang, K .: The accompaniment of seriously ill and dying people. Stuttgart 2006 from Schlippe, A .; Mustard, W .; Broda, M .: Psychotherapy and chronic illness Psychotherapy must have "legs". Psychotherapy in dialogue 1 (3) (S)

18 Dr. med. Miriam Haagen Medical psychotherapist for children, adolescents and adults (TP), psychoanalytic couple and family therapist, doctor for pediatric and adolescent medicine Bredeneschredder 4 a Hamburg Dr. Claudia Krell Working group coming-out among adolescents and young adults At the beginning, the participants introduced themselves and the facilities in which they work in a greeting, briefly describing the motives they brought into the working group and what expectations they had with theirs Linked participation. The motives ranged from professional interest through personal aspects to participants who had taken the working group as a "second choice" and had no special expectations. The different starting situations, starting with the field of work, the motivation and the associated wishes for the workshop, made this working group very diverse. In order to introduce the topic of coming-out and to make the living situation of young people who do not meet heteronormative expectations tangible and visible, the content-related part of the working group began with an experiment to which the participants were invited. This is a method that is often used as part of (school) awareness projects when lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans * or queer young people or adults (LGBT * Q) are invited to groups or classes to report on the life situations of LGBT * Q people. During the exercise, 16

19 which the participants * asked to imagine that they are 16 years old again and that they are really in love with Alex for the first time. For one half of the group, Alex was a same-sex person and for the other half, an opposite-sex person. The participants then had the task of answering 20 questions, which were read out by the speaker, with either "yes" or "no". Exemplary questions were: "Can you walk across the schoolyard with Alex holding hands?", "Can you tell your parents about your relationship with Alex?" or "Can you think of 10 celebrities from politics, sports, television etc. who have the same sexual orientation as you?" After the last question, all participants stood up, the speaker counted backwards from 20. Those who heard the number of their "yes" answers were allowed to sit down.As expected, the following happened: The participants who had imagined a heterosexual relationship with Alex were able to sit down relatively quickly because they could answer most of the questions with "yes". The participants who had imagined a same-sex relationship first put themselves well below 10, one remained standing until the end because she could not answer a single question with "yes". Two aspects became particularly clear here and reflected on by the participants in the subsequent discussion, along with a number of others: On the one hand, everyday situations that heterosexual people do not have to think about are often more difficult and not a matter of course for young people who live non-heterosexually are because they wake up in a heteronormative environment, in which they do not fit, because their way of life does not occur or is noticeable. On the other hand, that the privileges that heterosexual people have, were sometimes difficult to bear for the participants from the group who have a heterosexual relationship with Alex, because the simple, everyday questions made it abundantly clear where LGBT * Q -People are still disadvantaged and excluded. The participants were impressed by the exercise, it was a very good introduction to the topic. This first practical part was followed by the presentation of selected results from the study "Coming out and then ?!" which was carried out from 2013 to 2016 at the German Youth Institute and funded by the Federal Ministry for Family, Seniors, Women and Youth. The theoretical input took place in two parts, which were divided by the break so that the large amount of information could be well absorbed by the participants. In the first part, in addition to basic terminology (e.g. the distinction between sexual orientation and gender identity), the conception and data basis of the study was presented. The main focal points were the results on internal and external coming-out and the discrimination experiences of the adolescents who participated in the study. The focus here was on the three contexts of family, school and circle of friends, because the first two areas in particular play an important role in the lives of young people, from which they cannot escape or usually only with negative consequences in the event of problems. Discrimination on the basis of non-heterosexual orientation or non-cis-gender affiliation (and here both the experienced and the anticipated) was evident in other areas

This is one of the main topics as well as illuminating the problem of the heteronormative social structure. After the break, results on the use of leisure and especially counseling offers by LGBT * Q young people were explained in the second theoretical input. The speaker then outlined strategies that young people develop in order to be or remain capable of acting in their everyday lives. At the end of the data presentation, there was space for the need for action that had been developed in the context of the project from the results for politics, practice, science and society (the content-related aspects can be read in the brochure "Coming out and then ?!" can be ordered free of charge at the email address given below). Based on the new knowledge from the scientific field, in which results from other studies were repeatedly incorporated, the participants were then asked to deal with the following task in small groups: What do you think is helpful or necessary to to be able to give good advice on the subject of LGBT * Q or what have you already had good experience with in advice on the subject of LGBT * Q? This question should be treated with a view to four contexts, for each of which a small group of two or three people was responsible: - Public relations and appearance of the counseling center - Employees of the counseling center (colleagues and their own person) - In the counseling process with LGBT * Q - Adolescents and young adults - in the consultation process with parents After 20 minutes of preparation time, the participants presented their results, which were discussed and supplemented by the speaker's notes. Finally, a round of flashlights took place in which both participants and the speaker expressed great satisfaction with the course of the working group. New knowledge was conveyed in an easy and interesting way and the interest of the participants in the topic was aroused. The explosive life situation of lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans * and queer young people also became clear. The curiosity, open-mindedness and commitment of the participants and the speaker made a diverse, lively and enriching working group possible. 18th

21 Dr. Claudia Krell Dipl.-Psychologist, Educator German Youth Institute Nockherstr Munich Edouard Marry Working Group Culturally Sensitive Counseling in Couples Crises Culture as an opportunity or a taboo? The following dialectical discussion arose from the question of what subjectively experienced differently by the participants when dealing with binational couples, so that "migration sensitivity" is required when advising them. Thesis: the migrants have a different background in terms of social behavior, culture and, accordingly, the value system, which must be taken into account both when diagnosing the couple's problem and when choosing the interventions. Antithesis: since every person seeking advice is different from everyone else and has to be seen and understood in his / her individuality, there is no need for special exploration among migrants. This would rather emphasize her / his otherness and reinforce the strangeness in the counseling, thus being counterproductive for the development of familiarity and acceptance, which are necessary for a successful, emotional "docking". As a synthesis: the otherness of the alien cannot be ignored. It is already expressed in language competence, appearance, emotionality, etc. To deny it requires unnecessary, "politically correct" censorship and 19

22 blocks authenticity in communication. Instead, their own prejudices and racisms must remain uncensored in the self-reflection of the counselors and be controlled when dealing with incomprehensible reactions or descriptions of the escalations between the couple. As an example, the emergence of a conflict in an older couple was considered from one case, in which the Arab partner reacted with seemingly excessive jealousy towards the German partner when she reported to him about a telephone conversation with her ex-husband. The ensuing escalation led to divorce intentions that are incomprehensible to a German counselor because he found the cause to be very minor. Only the analysis of the historical background brought understanding for the violent reaction of the Arab husband: when they met, the couple had resolved never to mention the woman's "past". She was divorced when they first met and had brought a daughter from her first marriage into the relationship. For the Arab partner, who according to his Muslim faith had entered the marriage "untouched", the fact that another man had already "had" his wife and that she was not a virgin at the time of marriage was always a subliminal disturbance. This was revived as the "blindness of love" subsided over the years and the repressed was updated with the call. In such cases, the strangeness shows itself in spite of the familiarity of the experience of the same facts, not only for the wife but also for the counselor. Then there were many facets of experiences with migrants: disturbances, anecdotes and moments of helplessness in the face of unexpected and incomprehensible behaviors. The question was repeated every time: should we, and how far should we as consultants adapt to the needs, expectations and evaluations of clients with their migration background? When do we stop feeling authentic? When does the other culture collide with the German one to such an extent that a clear demarcation and a reference to a position become necessary, which may lead us to risk breaking off? Finally, there was an input on helpful attitudes when advising people with a migration background, especially from oriental countries. The counselor must be clear about the role he / she is supposed to play. The positive transference as a parent figure can be used to promote the work of matching the various value systems. There is often a delegation of the superego function to this parent figure, which can thus influence internalizations (imagines). These transfers should be maintained to give more weight to the interventions. Overall, it was interesting to see that the relationship between the participants and the speaker (with a migrant background) was very benevolent, but that some of the recommendations made by the speaker were astonishing and very amusing for the participants. Much- 20

23 this was also a reflection of the topic in the group dynamics of the working group. Due to this minor but noticeable foreignness, the speaker, as a translator and mediator between the cultures, so to speak, was able to encourage the German consultants to be more courageous to view their German identity as a fixed point of view and not only to be unsettled by ambivalences to represent the Basic Law, but also the achievements of German culture more resolutely and to assert them against devaluations. Edouard Marry Psychological psychotherapist, marriage, family and life counselor Practice for marriage counseling and psychotherapy Regensburger Str Berlin 21

24 Jürgen Schramm Working Group Young People Playing with Death This title triggered different associations among the participants in the working group, depending on their own experience and professional handling of risky situations or behavior of young people: substance abuse of young people with alcohol and illegal drugs, risky behavior in road traffic or tests of courage such as subway or suburban train surfing, track roulette, jumps from roofs or bridges, a behavior that is often referred to as presuicidal and is consistently assessed negatively. After a brief input from the speaker trying to understand the terms "risk, risky behavior, risk-seeking behavior, suicidality, suicide attempt, parasuicide, suicidal gesture, suicidal act, suicidal appeal, etc." To define a lively discussion developed in the group: "Play" young people "only" with death (or with life) or at least endanger their health and should "do better" or is the risk behavior for almost all adolescents also have an exploratory, scouting and trying behavior that can be normal and not only inevitable but possibly even sensible? Discussed were inter alia. the term "risk" comes from the ancient Persian language and means "circumnavigating a cliff" and can already be found in records from Mesopotamia (around 3200 BC), which deal with the calculation of loss and profit as well as success and Failure and where options were assessed in terms of their prospects. "Risk" is understood as a construct of elements that contain the terms "possibility" and "loss". A distinction must be made between "risk behavior" and "risk-seeking behavior". Risk behavior describes behavior in risk situations and therefore does not automatically mean "risky" and "risk-seeking" behavior. In the opinion of many scientists and participants in the working group, the risk appetite that is widespread among young people can largely be traced back to brain physiological, i.e. biological processes. Because the death of unused nerve cell contacts in adolescents also means that fewer stimulating stimuli reach the "reward system" during adolescence. Perhaps this explains why adolescents who are pubescent are sometimes looking for the thrill and assess it differently than an adult who experiences a feeling of happiness when inline skating on the sidewalk. The young person, on the other hand, needs daring jumps and dangerous maneuvers

25 ver to feel similar. Young people therefore rate risky activities much more positively, only they promise the desired kick. Other aspects that were addressed were the role of personality and that of peers in adolescent risk behavior: Of course, in addition to biological factors, aspects of personality are also decisive. In this way, children who are very impulsive from a young age can show a pronounced curiosity about everything unknown, and in adolescence they tend to be carried away to impetuous actions. It is not uncommon for the daredevils to come from parental homes in which fathers and mothers pay little attention to rules, exemplify problematic behavior, are not very supportive, not very loving and hardly know anything about their offspring's friendships and leisure time. In the opinion of the participants, however, a major risk factor for problematic behavior in adolescents are those of the same age, the "peers", who can just as easily be a positive corrective if they criticize problematic behavior. Jürgen Schramm Graduate psychologist, psychological psychotherapist intakkt Psychological Solutions Schneiderstr Krefeld 23

26 Dr. Rudolf Sanders Working Group on Destructive Patterns in Couple Relationships Recognizing, Understanding, Intervening A topic that is close to the heart of many colleagues in institutional counseling. This was expressed in the high number of 25 participants. In order to allow as many interested parties as possible to participate in the content of the working group, a detailed article was written on this (see page 48). Before it is even possible to grasp a destructive pattern in a couple relationship, one must ask oneself: What is my own idea of ​​a couple relationship? What guides me consciously or unconsciously in a couple counseling? After an exchange in small groups and the gathering together, these ideas were supplemented by a definition of marriage as partnership. This seems to be sufficiently "common sense", but from a purely legal point of view is only possible with the abolition of the construct of housewife marriage in the FRG through the divorce law reform in 1976. A marriage as a partnership was defined as a community of gains, less related to the financial added value than to an added value that enables the personal growth of the individual and of the individual towards the development of a sovereign personality that is inherent in him or her. Manfred Buber speaks of the fact that in you one becomes the self. This requires an exclusive, binding relationship. This explains the wish that most people want a happy, harmonious and, above all, long-term partnership. If so many people want that, the question arises as to what are the possible causes for not being able to shape such a partnership. In this way, the participants collected reasons that can lead to the failure of couple relationships. Individualization (individual happiness seems more important than the common whole), pluralization (there is a wealth of possible life models available) and end traditionalization (marked by the abolition of housewife marriage in 1976) were identified as the main causes. These causes were supplemented by the results of the research accompanying the consultation, from which it becomes clear that it is in particular the design of the internal relationship how two people create a close relationship that leads to disorders. In order to be a partner at eye level, a sufficiently stable self is required. The results of attachment research suggest that this self, especially in the first 3 to 4 years of life, is shaped as an interplay of genetic predispositions and experiences with the first attachment person. 24

27 One key to understanding current destructive patterns is to look at the relationship schemes learned early on. After an explanation of the difference between adaptive and maladaptive schemes, as well as the difference between scheme and mode, 19 different maladaptive schemes were presented in a worksheet. In order to get closer to the conference topic "The taboo in counseling, the foreign in us", the participants had the opportunity to use a questionnaire to identify their own possibly still active schemes, life traps, and to discuss them in small groups. This knowledge of one's own schemas that are still active is extremely important for consulting processes so that unconscious intentions cannot irritate or disrupt these processes. The last section of this working group dealt with the question of what options there are for intervention. Since, as the results of the research accompanying counseling suggest, it is especially early attachment trauma that leads to destructive relationship patterns in couple relationships, conditions were identified in which a framework can be created in which healing can occur.Healing in this context means to develop more and more towards a self-determined, sovereign personality in order to receive that care, attention, touch, support and also be able to give what is needed for well-being and satisfaction in the relationship . As an intervention approach, the partner school was presented as an innovative concept for recognizing, understanding and intervening in destructive patterns. It was created under the everyday challenges and conditions of a marriage and family counseling center, was able to prove its effectiveness in prospective studies, and is very popular with clients, so they like to tell about it and refer others to it. The procedure is based on the results of psychotherapy research as presented in particular by Hilarion Petzold and Klaus Grawe in integrative therapy. The great popularity on the part of clients can possibly be explained and understood by using the term partner school. In a current publication (Gerhard Roth, Alicante Ryba: Coaching, Counseling and Brain. Neurobiological Basics of Effective Change Concepts. Klett Cotta Verlag Stuttgart 2016) the authors were able to prove that psychotherapy on the one hand and counseling / coaching on the other are two poles of a continuum with an area of ​​overlap that is much larger than previously thought. The crucial difference is the connotation, i. This means that those who do psychotherapy have a deficit, but those who receive coaching (partner school) improve their skills. In this respect, the same neurological conditions for effective change strategies apply to both areas. It becomes clear that, contrary to the traditional view, it is not essentially rationality and understanding that ultimately determine our behavior, but that this is what the limbic system does as a comprehensive experience memory, which is in the constant unconscious or conscious evaluation of what we 25

28 experience and what we do enriches for a lifetime. This guarantees that everything we do is done in the light of our overall experience. If this experience is more or less positive, it results in positive action. If it was shaped in prenatal, early postnatal and later negative events, this results in restricted to severely disturbed behavior. Since this behavioral control does not predominantly take place on the linguistic level, but on the various limbic levels, this means that consultation, coaching and psychotherapy must begin precisely on these levels of our brain. This is exactly where the partner school comes in by being based on an integrative image of man with a "bio-psycho-social-ecological" orientation. Women and men are seen holistically in their physical, emotional and spiritual reality with their social and ecological contexts and in the continuum of age. The partner school therefore always includes the biological-somatic side of the human being as a "body-being" and uses body and movement therapy approaches for this "bio dimension". For the psychological side, the "psycho-dimension" of the human being, the work is based on schema therapy and focused on emotions. Because of the great importance of the "socio-dimension", the social side of people, their great desire to find companions in the adventure land of marriage, as shown in an Emnid study regarding the wishes of those seeking advice at counseling centers from 2004 (Saßmann, H ., Klann, N .: Desires of those seeking advice and experiences of consultants as an orientation for needs-based planning. Beratung Aktuell, 2,) became clear, the learning of relationship skills, if the organizational possibilities are available, also takes place in and with groups. The implementation of this bio-psycho-social approach was exemplified to the participants in the working group on the one hand through images from the consultation process, through an SWR television report and through a physical exercise with the dimensions: my stand, my own space and opening and closing . Dr. Rudolf Sanders qualified pedagogue, integrative couple and sex therapist, marriage, family and life counselor (BAG) Sauerlandstr Menden 26

29 Dr. Stefan Trobisch-Lütge Working Group Recognizing Mental Traumatization from Political Persecution Experiences from more than 20 years of psychotherapeutic and advisory work with politically traumatized people under the GDR dictatorship in the institutional framework of the advice center "Gegenwind" in Berlin were presented. In the past few years, several thousand politically persecuted victims of the SED dictatorship have been treated by staff trained in psychology, socio-pedagogy and psychotherapy at the advice center "Gegenwind". An overview was given of the psychological consequences of the traumatic consequences of decomposition and imprisonment in the former GDR and the resulting risk of retraumatisation in reunified Germany. The state-planned disintegration was based on concepts of "operational psychology". This term was coined by the Ministry for State Security of the GDR. In doing so, the state apparatus resorted to scientific methods from general, social and clinical psychology and neighboring areas, which were deliberately misused. (Behnke, Trobisch 1998). The disintegration measures were always aimed at the particular personality structure of the target person, focused on the respective weak points of the so-called "enemies of socialism". The aim was to induce the person concerned to be permanently preoccupied with himself, to fundamentally destabilize the personality of those who think differently and the opponents of socialism through psychological decomposition and to fight hostile ideologies. Victims of psychological torture, as it was regularly applied to politically imprisoned persons in the Ulbricht era and the Honecker era in the former GDR, were thus exposed to complex and aversive stimulus patterns. There was humiliation and traumatic ties to psychologically astute interrogators who knew how to create feelings of absolute hopelessness and powerlessness in the prisoners. Uncertainty with regard to the well-being of one's own family or political friends was deliberately created. After he was forced to confess, he was sentenced and sent to the notorious penitentiary of the GDR. There were regular violent and sexual attacks on political prisoners. It was particularly pointed out that those affected by GDR persecution also required a high degree of adaptability after reunification 27

30 turns. In various contexts, the victims of political persecution in the GDR have seen a considerable decrease in self-worth. Combined with an almost seismographic feeling for the injustices of the post-reunification period, many of these people are prone to massive dissatisfaction and chronic bitterness. Disappointments about the legal and moral reappraisal of GDR injustice determine the mood among those politically persecuted, who see themselves as losers again in the process of reunification. In recent years Linden and colleagues (2004) have described a further disorder analogous to PTSD (posttraumatic stress disorder) with the "posttraumatic embitterment disorder" (PTED). A PTED should then develop as a result of an extraordinary, but actually normal, stress. PTED is characterized by bitterness, development of pronounced accompanying psychological symptoms, chronicity and considerable negative social and medical consequences. A more intense state of bitterness with feelings of injustice can also be observed among those politically persecuted under the SED dictatorship. With the reduction to phenomenological aspects to the existing feelings of injustice, which also have a real social root, one would do the politically persecuted in the wrong insofar as other psychopathological phenomena such as intrusions, avoidance behavior and hyperarousal would be neglected and the triggering conditions massive injustice in the GDR in their effect would be played down. In the case of politically persecuted people, bitterness would imply that they had not reached a possible processing state and were therefore embittered. Our own study shows that the descendants of the politically persecuted of the SED dictatorship are also involved in the persecution of their parents in a variety of ways. Due to the frequent chronification of parental persecution symptoms, determined by social withdrawal, high mistrust and bitterness, many descendants are forced into an argument or a reconstruction of the parental history of persecution. (Trobisch-Lütge 2015) Literature Behnke, K .; Trobisch, S .: cause panic and consternation. The practice of the "operational psychology" of the State Security Service and its traumatizing consequences in: Müller, K.-D .; Stephan, A. (Ed.): The past does not let us go. Conditions of detention of political prisoners in the Soviet Zone / GDR and their health consequences (S). Berlin 1998 Linden, M .; Schippan, B; Baumann, K .; Spielberg, R .: The post-traumatic bitterness disorder (PTED). Delimitation of a specific form of adjustment disorders in: Der Nervenarzt, 75 (1) (S)

31 Trobisch-Lütge, S .: The late poison. Consequences of political traumatization in the GDR and their treatment. Gießen 2004 Trobisch-Lütge, S .: Monitored Past: Effects of Political Persecution of the SED Dictatorship on the Second Generation in: Trobisch-Lütge, S .; Bomberg, K.-H. (Ed.): Hidden wounds: late effects of political traumatization in the GDR and their transgenerational transmission (S). Giessen 2015 Dr. Stefan Trobisch-Lütge graduate psychologist, psychological psychotherapist, psychoanalyst, trauma therapist Güntzelstr Berlin 29

32 Report on the General Assembly Welcome Cornelia Weller welcomes the members present and opens the General Assembly. First of all, she pays tribute to former President Ulrich Jentsch, who died in 2015 and whose death the Executive Board only learned of in December 2016. Jentsch was a board member from 1971 to 1992, vice-president and from 1982 to 1992 president of the DAJEB. 2. Report of the Board of Directors Cornelia Weller refers to the detailed "Documents for the General Assembly 2017" which were sent to the members in advance and explains individual points: a) Office In addition to the present "Report of the Board of Directors", Cornelia Weller informs the members about an upcoming one Change in management. Due to the termination of the previous managing director, Jens Wöhler will be hired as the new managing director. Cornelia Weller thanks the longstanding former managing director Dr. Florian Moeser-Jantke, who is available as a consultant to the board and the new managing director from January to June 2017. Afterwards, Dr. Anja Tiedtke, who has been working as a research assistant in the office since May 2016. b) Public Relations Weller points out the new homepage, on which participants and teachers of the 53rd advanced training course can log into the learning platform. In addition, information on the ongoing training series and the annual conference can be accessed here. Weller thanks Ingo Stein, Eva Reinmuth, Kathrin Rhein and Christine Rüberg, who were on the editorial committee until the end of 2016, for their work. Since January 2017, Dr. Rudolf Sanders Chairman of the Editorial Committee. It is planned to only publish an information circular (after the annual conference) as a brochure in the future; In addition, an online magazine should be sent 2-3 times a year. Dr. Rudolf Sanders calls for participation in the editorial committee. d) Learning platform 53rd training course 30

33 Afterwards, Ulrike Heckel will present the learning platform for the 53rd advanced training course on the Internet in a short live presentation. 3. Discussion Hans-Christian Prestien reports on the association "Advocate of the child" and suggests cooperation between counseling centers and family / juvenile courts. 4. Annual financial statement budget planning 2018 Cornelia Weller explains the annual financial statement 2016, the budget 2017 and the planning Audit report Rosamaria Jell reports on the audit she carried out with Patrick Friedl in January 2016 and refers to the report of the audit committee, which is available to all members with the documents for the general meeting . It notes that there are no major complaints about the handling of the funds entrusted to it and recommends that the Board of Management be discharged. 8. Discharge of the board of directors Knispel requests the discharge of the board of directors. The proposal was unanimously accepted. The board does not take part in this vote. 9. Opinion on the rescheduling of the 2017 annual conference Groeneveld explains the reason for the rescheduling of this year's annual conference from the Ascension weekend to the beginning of March and asks all those present to express their opinions on this date. Three of those present want the date of Ascension again; everyone else would prefer an appointment in March in the future as well. 10. Current status of the redesign of the DAJEB homepage It is planned to revise the homepage in 2017. 31

34 Activity report for the year Annual Conference 2016 The annual conferences are the central working meeting of the members of the DAJEB and of guests interested in the work of the DAJEB. In terms of content, cross-cutting issues are dealt with, i.e. H. Topics that are of common current interest to consultants who work in different fields of activity and with different target groups. The 2016 annual conference with the theme "Nothing is as constant as change" took place in May in Erkner near Berlin. The conference was organized by the President, Ms. Dipl.-Soz.Päd. Cornelia Weller, opened. The technical part was opened by Prof. Dr. Stefan Busse with his main lecture "Consulting in Change". The topic was then dealt with in more depth in 5 working groups: - Working group "Brain, Heart and Body in Counseling and Psychotherapy" Speaker: Erika Lützner-Lay, systematic couple and family therapist Moderator: Dipl.-Soz.-Päd. Claudia Gansauge - AG "Converting Walls into Windmills: Change Processes and Resistance" Speaker: Dr. Paola Pizzamiglio-Link Moderator: Dipl.-Soz.-Päd. Cornelia Weller - AG "Burn out is out, resilient is in" Speaker: Dr. Christina Schierwagen Moderator: Petra Hellmann, Pedagogue - Working group "Pleasure and frustration of the years gained: Older people in counseling Images of old age, development tasks and resources" Speaker: Dipl.-Psych. Christiane Schrader Moderator: Dipl.-Soz.-Päd. Ulrike Heckel - AG "Overcoming crises with rituals and consciously shaping transitions" Speaker: Brigitte Bürkel, psych. Consultant moderator: Dipl.-Soz.-Päd. Ulrike Heckel Number of participants: 86 Planning / preparation: Dipl.-Soz.-Päd. Cornelia Weller, Dipl.-Soz.-Päd. Claudia Gansauge, Carmen Hühnerfuss Quality assurance: through formalized preparation, implementation and follow-up in accordance with "Annual Conference Planning" 32

35 Quality control: Participant survey with a specific questionnaire (for annual meetings) Evaluation of the main presentation: 1.83 Evaluation of the working groups (average): 2.20 2nd General Meeting 2016 The General Meeting 2016 took place on May 5th in Erkner. a) Report of the board of directors Renate Gamp referred to the detailed "Documents for the General Assembly 2016", which were sent to the members in advance. She then reported on the work of the board from 2012 to b) Discussion The board answered questions from the members. c) Annual accounts 2015, budget 2016, planning 2017 Elke Voglsanger introduced herself briefly as the new managing director and explained the annual accounts 2015, the budget 2016 and the planning d) Audit report Gamp referred to the audit report in the documents for the general meeting on pages 28 to 32 as well to the letter from Rosamaria Jell and Margarita Gansert, which was sent as an attachment to the documents. After both could not be present in person, they confirmed in this letter the careful handling of the funds and recommended the discharge of the board. e) Discharge of the board of directors Ulrich Kruse requested the discharge of the board of directors. The motion was passed unanimously. The board did not take part in this vote. f) Farewell to the departing board members Renate Gamp Farewell to Petra Heinze and Dana Urban, both of whom were no longer candidates. 33

36 g) New election of the board and the auditors The following were elected: - as president: Dipl.-Soz.-Päd. Cornelia Weller - on the Vice President: Dipl.-Soz.-Päd. Ulrike Heckel - assessors: Dipl.-Psych. Berend Groeneveld Dipl.-Theol. Christine Koch-Brinkmann Dipl.-Psych. Katja Müller Dr. Rudolf Sanders - to the auditor: Patrick Friedl, lawyer Rosamaria Jell, M.A. h) Farewell to the previous President Berend Groeneveld said farewell to President Renate Gamp, who was no longer running, and thanked her very much for her decades of work. i) Expression of interest in participating in the editorial committee and in the committees for the preparation of the 2017 and 2018 annual meetings Cornelia Weller called for participation in the committees. 3.Further training courses for marriage, partnership, family and life counselors Up until now, further training in marriage, partnership, family and life counseling has not been legally regulated by the federal government or the states. In the interests of clients seeking advice, however, it is necessary that marriage, family and life counselors in all federal states have completed further training according to uniformly high quality standards. The DAJEB therefore conducts further training courses in marriage, partnership, family and life counseling, which are part of the core area of ​​work within the framework of institutional funding. The advanced training courses take place centrally in Lower Saxony and Berlin with participants from basically all federal states. The training is carried out part-time and is aimed primarily at those who have completed a relevant degree in social education, social work, psychology, medicine, law or theology. It lasts 3 1/2 years and consists of: - Theoretical part: - at least 300 hours of theory; - at least 50 hours of reflection on practice; - Preparation of a literary work; 34